East Coasting

I am eight months into this Washington DC adventure. WE are family so I am going to be completely transparent. The first four months were tough and I was MISERABLE!!!!! I am rarely miserable so when I am, it feels like the end of the world. I mean who moves from Atlanta right before the winter. I promise you it made perfect sense at the time but the cold weather and snow was messing with my psyche… add in that everything just came to a standstill and not in a good way. So that just added to my disappointment.  Then I got sick and my eyes were bothering me. I kept trying to get into a routine because I know a routine stabalizes my mood but I was having no luck.

I eventually stumbled across two books that changed the game for me “Prosperity Bible” and “Money and the Law of Attraction”.  If you don’t feel motivated after reading those, then I don’t know what will motivate you. There were days when I would read for 6 hours straight, go to yoga, come home and get back in the bed. In February, I started to feel better.  I am now fully back to being my random self and surprisingly extremely happy. I mean happy like that coworker who comes in yelling ‘good morning’ while you roll your eyes because you know nobody could be that damn happy on a Monday. So yep I am happy like her.  I wake up smiling because the east coast tides have changed for your girl.  I am going to act like the first four months didn’t happen and I’ll share with you what I’ve been up to since February.

Podcast

While I love blogging, I don’t always have time to do it.  So in the fall, I decided to start a podcast. I was amped up about it until I went into my funk. Now I am back at it and launching this week.  This podcast, of course, will be a compilation of where I am in life.  I will share my spiritual experiences, along with tools that led to finding my purpose. The only difference is now you get to hear my voice and the voice of my amazing guest.

Business

My yoga business, I pushed it to the side but it keeps calling me. So I am going to attempt to do what other entrepreneurs have said is impossible, I am going to run two business simultaneously. Which I’ve been kind of doing anyway because I love them both equally and in truth, they kind of move on separate cycles.  I didn’t think I would love having an accounting business but I got my first DC client a month ago and I just love her. She is the ultimate client. She sees me as her advisor and I really feel like I am able to make an impact. I am looking forward to being the financial pulse of her nonprofit organization.

Mentoring

I am also back in mentor mode.  Young people are entertaining and I love their energy so volunteered to be a student liaison at the University of Maryland.  These are college students so of course, they know everything and they spend quite a bit of time ignoring my email. I am working on building trust with them.  That’s my project for the year, to connect with these 20-year-olds and help make their transition into the real world a little easier than it was for me. I didn’t have enough sense back then to know I needed a mentor.  I actually was probably not the idea mentee up until about 2018 so I get it. Whenever someone suggested I get a mentor, I’d roll my eyes and wonder how could a mentor really add value.  So I am attempting to build a bridge for them that I didn’t build for myself when I was that age.

Travel

I canceled my trip to South Africa but I don’t regret it. I was supposed to go in February but as I said around that time things weren’t going as planned so I sadly canceled my ticket. Which was probably for the best because it’s hard to enjoy a place when you are in a bad mood. The motherland is still in my sights and with luck, I shall grace her presence within the next 12 months.

Dating

I am rolling my eyes as I am typing this.  I decided in addition to getting out the house,  I also would get back on a dating app. It only took about two weeks before I posted in my profile “don’t ask me about my vagina”.  Maybe I should create an app called “don’t ask me about my vagina”.   I know apps are all about hooking up but damn can you pretend to get to know me first.  That is literally one of my biggest pet peeves besides being sent unsolicited pictures of men’s male parts.  We are human so its a given that if we are vibing and I’m into you, it will most likely go that way. Asking me two conversations in is a turn off. Does anybody in this generation have any patience any more??? I will dedicate a whole post to dating in the nation’s capital so stay tuned.

Peace and Blessings

 

 

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Keep Leaping Into The Unknown

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I can’t believe we are already five months into 2019. I came into 2019 with some really big ideas but execution got off to a slow start. I kept getting stuck at how.  How is this going to happen? How am I going to do this by myself? Why don’t I  have any concrete answers? When you have big ideas the ‘what’ comes pretty easily but the ‘how’ is trickier. My inner critic was testing my spiritual gangster as usual. I was stuck there for a few months. Procrastination was impacting my life. Inaction was masking the fear I was feeling.

I’ve uprooted my life on a whelm and made all these promises (to myself) that I was no longer sure I could fulfill. Classic feelings of imposter syndrome crept into my life, threatening my independence. I knew how to create this new life in my mind but getting it to play out in my reality is a whole other ball game. We are five months in and I still haven’t figured out the how. What I did figure out is that I just needed to relax. When in doubt relax. We always have two choices. We can get to the finish line calm and relaxed or with our wig flipped inside out and one shoe on.

Here are some suggestions for getting to the finish line with peace in one piece.

Enjoy the journey and get out of your head. I have a high achiever mentality, I can’t help it. I always feel like I could be doing more. Although I never feel like I am in competition with others, I am always on a journey to reach a little higher or explore a different avenue. I was talking to my friend’s mom and she lovingly said but you have accomplished so much. She went to list off my accomplishments. I was stuck because she was right and at that moment I was being ungrateful. So I checked myself and thanked her for that reflection.

Give yourself some grace. If you are doing your best, you will accomplish the goals you set for yourself.  So be kind to yourself in the meantime. It’s easy to give others grace but we need to turn that magic wand on ourselves sometimes.

Look at your history.  Once we accomplish something we forget and move on to the next thing. That’s just the nature of being human. We were born to desire, desire is what leads to experience and expression. However, if you move on to the next thing too quickly you can’t pull from that experience. I love writing out my lessons learned because it gives me a moment to see how I have applied what life is teaching me. My overriding themes seem to be connected to forgiveness, releasing fear, trusting the unknown, opening my heart more and teaching others.  If you think about it, all those themes are related and I talk about these areas a lot. The truth is when you do not learn from your experiences, you will repeat it. Think about the one person who has the same complaint. Unless they are working on resolving that complaint, it will be the same complaint twenty years from now. So take a moment and look at your history and decide if your life is on repeat or if it’s evolving.

Peace and Blessing

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